Your Journey to Success: How to Accept the Answers You Discover Along the Way by Kenny Weiss

Author:Kenny Weiss [Weiss, Kenny]
Language: eng
Format: epub
Tags: Self-Help, Personal Growth, Success, Psychology, Psychotherapy, General, Family & Relationships, Parenting
ISBN: 9781456629656
Google: gepDDwAAQBAJ
Amazon: B078JKSYPJ
Goodreads: 58477860
Publisher: eBookIt.com
Published: 2017-12-15T05:00:00+00:00

Our Greatest Strength Gets Buried

As feelings of shame overwhelm us, we start believing those feelings. They become our identity and the “me” that we take out into the world. Once we have those false beliefs, we stick with them because they make us feel that we have control over other people’s feelings and behavior. We are dead wrong. Ironically, this is what keeps us connected to the people who originally created that shame for us. Holding onto shame also shields us from other people’s feelings and leaves us unable to connect with them because we don’t want to feel; we don’t want to risk being vulnerable. But the biggest reason we hang onto shame is because we get power from it when we revictimize ourselves. It’s how we all attempt to reconcile the trauma that was passed down to us.

Sara was referred by the naturopath o ffice that asked me to start seeing some of their clients who were stalling in getting their health back. For quite some time, Sara’s doctor had suggested she come to see me but, as it is with most people, we won’t address the pain until it is great enough. That pain finally reached a crisis point and that’s when I first met Sara. At work, her new manager accompanied her on a sales call and it didn’t go well. Wanting to express his new power, he was highly critical of how she went about her job. She had a complete emotional breakdown and then broke out with a case of shingles. According to author Louise Hay’s symptom list, shingles is the result of waiting for the other shoe to drop, fear and tension, and being too sensitive. She took a medical leave and began working with me. I learned that Sara’s father was highly critical of her. He never missed an opportunity to let her know he wished he had a son. As every child would do, Sara looked for every way possible to get her father’s love.

She became a devoted and accomplished athlete, receiving a scholarship to run track. While at an out-of-state track meet in college, Sara agreed to leave the hotel one night with a friend who wanted to get some snacks. While on their snack run, the two young women were abducted and raped. (A side note: Sara repeatedly shared how she had a terrible time making decisions. She said she would become flustered and just not know what to do. She wasn’t sure where that came from. To address this, I used a technique called tapping, which often helps clients who are stuck in shame. It allows them to recall the event and feel it as intensely as possible and then share the emotions associated with it. Once they have shared this information, I begin tapping on specific points while I take the words they used. The idea behind it is that it breaks the subconscious connection to the event, thus freeing them of the trauma. It has been highly successful and it was with Sara as well.

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